When I am fully in relationship with someone, this makes perfect sense. Yesterday, someone commented that someone earns our love. Perhaps on an intimate level that is the case; however, on a more global level, what is my responsibility? As I was sitting here, a parent of a former student came up and we chatted. Her son is doing very well. That is the I get you I am talking about. It is not always about the person we are in daily contact with. What difference did I make for that child several years ago?